Alexis on the Sexes from vita.mn original question post: Who’s into whom?
October 18, 2007
Make a move on him if he won’t, or move on.
Q: I’ve been dating a guy since mid-July. So far he’s kissed me on the lips at every goodbye, and we’ve held hands. That’s it. Now as mid-October approaches, I’m getting disinterested for lack of passion. Is he waiting for me to make the first move?
A: Read Alexis’s favorite new movie answer here (you really should go there first, this might make some sense)
H: I don’t know what to tell you. You should be naked (or in some form of passion) by now. I am sorry. I hope that one dude doesn’t ruin your outlook on what a man may accomplish with you someday. But then again, you seriously waited 3 months without trying jump the spark yourself? And I’m supposed to feel bad?
You went along with this for 3 months. You clearly liked him enough after 2 months to stick this out. So why didn’t you do the dinner and a movie at my place date? Have a bottle of wine (now, look, drink responsibly and respect peoples boundaries). Or two bottles and see what happens in the kitchen, which is a prime flirt and make out location as long as your 3 roommates don’t come home. Than again, that never stopped dirty-talk girl but you are clearly not ready for that story. Yes, it is lame, or there is a really good reason, why he hasn’t tried the same thing. But he hasn’t. And neither have you.
So, quite your self-stalking of no love and see if you can guess which pub I’m writing this from. Alexis is right, grow up and make some kind of move. Move in for some passion or move on. I’ve got a feeling you’ll guess right. So bartender, I’ll have a couple of shots for my new friend here - she’s had a rough 3 months.