Herb on Alexis

Alexis on the Sexes from vita.mn original question post: Bored to tears
November 1, 2007
Slow down baby, you’re moving way too fast.

Q: I often get bored really fast in my relationships and break up with my boyfriends within a week or two. I’ve been dating this one guy for a while now (longer than two weeks), and I really like him. I am afraid that I’ll get bored with him though. Instead of letting the relationship die, what can I do to keep things alive and interesting (that doesn’t cost too much — I am a college student after all)?

– Bored, 19

A: Read Alexis’s like a 19 year old is going to listen answer here (you really should go there first, this might make some sense)

H: Well now I am officially behind. But it’s been an eventful week here. She found me. She doesn’t hate me. And she’s still hot. Sounds like a win-win.

On with the advice for a 19 year old who can’t maintain a serious relationship because…..wait, WHAT? 19? Seriously? At 19 you’re stressed over not being able to keep a relationship?

Sorry to disappoint but you getting bored is just you getting bored. Face the fact, that no matter what the chick flick movie says, you are just not into or ready for commitment.

Look rookie, love and all that isn’t easy, but it doesn’t have to be hard. Relax. You’re 19. Have fun. Be safe. You don’t need a boyfriend relationship right now, you’re 19. Enjoy the idea of study abroad. Move to 8 different cities in 3 years. Graduate with 12 different degrees. Smell the roses and enjoy life. Date and figure out what you like. Find out what kind of a guy is going to keep your interest. Don’t sweat this, it’s not a big deal…tons of people go through the same thing – you’re fine.

Now stop reading this blog and tell your older sister, no - your oldest sister that I’m heading to the bar. Don’t worry rookie, you can still buy me that drink in about 10 years.

And this comment was left on the blog….

I can’t believe I beat my editor to finding your site, Herb. He’s usually all over this stuff.

Fun reading, though I’ll disagree with both your HPV commentary and that of your commenter; but if I spent all day every day talking about my column in forums other than vita.mn, I’d be pretty bored (and boring).

Feel free to post your opinions on the site, too. The genuises over there have created an all new blog-type thing where readers can join the discussion every week:

http://vita.mn/askalexis.php

or go directly to the ‘Alexis on the Sexes’ tag at vita.mn:

http://vita.mn/tag_detail.php?tag_id=1119

(I’m assuming you are the same bespectacled Herb that bought me a 7-7 at the Fine Line one night.)

Ah Lexy, you found me… but just a bit too early…I was hoping to have a few things cleaned up and around here and settled in on my ‘writers voice’.

And ok, given, while I have no right to use a pet name as we’ve only met in person twice with the more famous episode of me bumbling my way through buying you a 7-7. And yes it was bumbling because at the time I had only a couple of hours of sleep and very sick man with a cold but still made it out to the show that night where I found the ever impressive Girlfriday and really how could I not buy you a drink. Not that I’m trying to make excuses for my lack of coolness in buying you a drink - I’m just pointing out that was like almost 2 years ago. I’ll just chalk it up to the fact that I’m unforgettable. And that was before I started working out, you just wait.

Hopefully you’ll swing back here once and awhile. This blog has a joke history behind it that I should explain…sometime when we bump into each and I impress another 7-7 I’ll give you the story.

Or maybe you’ll get me a job at vita.mn writing against you. Though I’m not sure people could handle having two of the best looking people in the city writing sex and relationship answers with the same ink.

Ha!